Kamasutra is about pleasure not about sex. sex is a very physical act that anybody can indulge in the act of sex, pleasure is something that only the human mind can actually understand and indulge in. pleasure is a much longer-lasting thing and its actually extremely good for us and it is something that actually takes us to a whole different elevation.
Vatsyayana, the author of the Kamasutra actually says this “it is nothing like we think of the act of sex today and it talks about this refinement and this beauty in such a way because in ancient times they believed that everything had to start from the point of physical intimacy”. so actually I’m going to give simple example probably explain it better, every time a king came to the throne they would have a version of Kamasutra commissioned for their kingdom. so there’s not just one Kamasutra but thousands of that and each time they had it commissioned they believed that if a couple could share really good mutually pleasurable intimacy that means the relation would be stable if the relationship was stable society would be stable if society would stable the kingdom would stable.
So, this was about the bigger picture they literally believed back in that time, that success in any part of our lives depended on our success in our physical intimate life. Hence it’s not about sex, it was about pleasure, arousal and desire because of course in ancient times again we believe that the highest form of energy is sexual energy. suppose when we exercise it gets our metabolism going, they believe that when we have arousal when we are in a state of pleasure and elevating pleasure, there is more metabolism in our body than even when we exercise because every part of our body goes into some form of activity. And eventually, if you consider
This is where if we carried this pleasure to its final point this is how we can create life. So we know this was considered the highest form of energy.
These texts whether it was the Arthashastra, Bhagwat Geeta, Kamashatra, were written almost in a scientific manner. So they have written in the form of poetry and they are not really written for a person to understand, they have written in metaphors. So there are commentaries that we have to read stand what they say.
If you go back to the Kamasutra the only thing that makes sense to the normal reader who does not know what the other metaphors mean to make sense. The only thing that makes sense is a little tiny chapter on positions. Because we understand what a position means and that’s why we have come to understand that the Kamasutra is just about positions. We don’t know what the positions are, we don’t know why they were talking about, there was a reason over there for the positions as well.
Kamasutra talks about what gives women pleasure what gives a man pleasure. It doesn’t say that a man has to pleasure the woman all the women has to pleasure the man. So the idea here is that we are talking about understanding a pleasure.
When I read Kamasutra book the first thing it struck me that there is absolutely no bad language used in the book. If we think about our sexual vocabulary, all of the words that we have for our sexual organs are abusive words, That’s not right. When we go back in time they talk about all of these words with such utter beauty. Even the vagina for instance is known as the Chandan mahel.
So, I think that the words that we use start to define your actions, the moment you stop thinking about that as dirty, bad and abusive, your mind already starts to change in the way that you approach something. The next thing is that it absolutely does not permit any kind of violence.
So, through the entire text, it says in a moment of passion a man might get to a certain point where he lashes out in a moment, but he cannot do that, it says that you cannot use any kind of violence or aggression and it goes so far. This is the first text that actually gives women a sort of equality and it gives women the right to consent. So, it actually says that it is up to the woman to decide if the pleasure or the passion that is being used is too aggressive.
Men and women both have very different forms of pleasure, for a man the pleasure is like fire it’s very quick to put ignite and put out. Women’s passion is like water it starts very slow to boil and takes longer to cool down.
The author of the book says that men and women are left to their own. It’s just that slowing everything down, it’s about understanding that you slow it down because there are other things to do.
It goes out of its way to explain to men that women have a very different form of pleasure and first time or the first few times that you make love, if you are too rushed and if you don’t make it pleasurable for a woman you will actually put her off of it for the rest of life.
So, It actually explains to a man how to go about it, it then says that the most important thing, section two deals with lovemaking and foreplay or pleasure, it says the conversation is our biggest thing. So, before we make love we have to start with a conversation that man should tell her stories to make her share her inhibition and let her start to get desire.
After making love we have a different set of conversation because, after we have made love the conversation is even more important. Because he says that the way that you finished this time will define how quickly she comes back to our bed next time.
I want us all to understand that the Kamasutra is not about teaching women how to seduce men. The Kamasutra was actually written to teach the men how to pleasure a woman because in the ancient time’s women were not taught how to read or write. So, men were taught how to read or write and hence this book is written for men. The patron deity of the Kamasutra is Saraswati ( the goddess of music and learning).